Comments on: the herd mentality

By: RYNO LOUW

RYNO LOUW — Sat, 18 Feb 2012 18:21:13 +0000

i personally feel that smokers have a mentality of a brick !

By: Matt

Matt — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 02:53:37 +0000

WOW Kevin... I needed to read this, I never throught about my smoking friends are a 'herd'. Its so true. One of my friends who has helped me choose failure on past quits had a saying 'god hates quitters'. I'm bookmarking this to read back on.

By: kevin

kevin — Sun, 18 Jan 2009 15:49:58 +0000

note: the comments above were left on the original tale at the date and time indicated.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 01:15:07 +0000

I couldn't agree more. Last year when I had yet another attempt to quit my "best friend" who was a chain smoker did his utmost to make me take it up again - which I did with awful consequences. At the time I thought it really seemed like he didn't want me to get healthy even though I had already been in hospital twice with pneumonia. It really compromised our friendship which ended a few months after that for other reasons but the fact that he really didn't want me to stop smoking had a huge impact on me. I am now in my 22 day of freedom from smoking and have much more of a chance of quiting for good as almost all my friends now have already given the smokes away and it's so much easier than last time. Encouragement from friends, fear of dying from a stroke or heart attach and your website keep me going, and I really am starting to see every day as a beautiful day. Thanks Kevin and keep up the good work. Kathy - Sydney, Australia

By: Anna

Anna — Sun, 21 Oct 2007 00:49:35 +0000

I feel lucky to say that upon quitting after 25 years, my sister, who is also my best friend, and her husband both quit a week later. Instead of not being supportive they jumped on the bandwagon, and making sure my sister and her husband, who have 2 great little kids, don't go back, helps keep me in check

By: Mariko

Mariko — Fri, 12 Jan 2007 23:51:05 +0000

I absolutely love this post, its soo true.

This sentence you wrote is soo great "i prefer the company of warriors.". It makes me feel stronger just reading it, thank you!

By: Colleen

Colleen — Thu, 04 Jan 2007 07:30:40 +0000

Even though Ive left the herd. I still have some loved ones, friends and co-workers still grazing. I havent had much negative response. But at times I think its more that they dont want to make me feel uncomfortable. I hope they quit someday because i care about them. But right now its more me i think trying to stay away from the smoking. I dont want to separate from them all forever.I hope i can be comfortable again with out temptation. Does that make since? This is still a very new, scary, confussing place for me right now. But i know its the one most important thing ill ever do for myself. Im waiting and welcomming the day that i feel much stronger and confident.

By: Tony

Tony — Tue, 11 Apr 2006 12:36:41 +0000

That's a great article and so true, I wish I had found it earlier. I am now in my 4th month of not smoking and am starting to call myself a "non-smoker". Read about my journey towards a non-smoking lifestyle at http://help-me-quit-smoking.blogspot.com Good luck! T

By: Raven

Raven — Fri, 29 Apr 2005 03:36:03 +0000

Very good read...very true! I was sent here by a fellow quit friend when i asked her opinion on my "still smoking" co-workers and what i felt to be coolness where friendship once was, while non smoking friends all rallied around me...now i think i understand.
Thanks

By: a.b.

a.b. — Sun, 02 Jan 2005 13:30:29 +0000

I left the herd for the most part 3
years ago , but it is an ongoing effort
to maintain my distance , for the herd
is always trying to get us back .