Comments on: the herd mentality http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality stories, essays, rambles and rants written on my journey to freedom from smoking Mon, 30 Aug 2010 19:29:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9 hourly 1 By: Matt http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality/comment-page-1#comment-374 Matt Mon, 09 Nov 2009 02:53:37 +0000 http://talesfromthequit.com/?p=110#comment-374 WOW Kevin... I needed to read this, I never throught about my smoking friends are a 'herd'. Its so true. One of my friends who has helped me choose failure on past quits had a saying 'god hates quitters'. I'm bookmarking this to read back on. WOW Kevin... I needed to read this, I never throught about my smoking friends are a 'herd'. Its so true. One of my friends who has helped me choose failure on past quits had a saying 'god hates quitters'. I'm bookmarking this to read back on.

]]> By: kevin http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality/comment-page-1#comment-138 kevin Sun, 18 Jan 2009 15:49:58 +0000 http://talesfromthequit.com/?p=110#comment-138 <span class="notice">note:</span> the comments above were left on the original tale at the date and time indicated. note: the comments above were left on the original tale at the date and time indicated.

]]> By: Kathy http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality/comment-page-1#comment-137 Kathy Tue, 29 Jul 2008 01:15:07 +0000 http://talesfromthequit.com/?p=110#comment-137 I couldn't agree more. Last year when I had yet another attempt to quit my "best friend" who was a chain smoker did his utmost to make me take it up again - which I did with awful consequences. At the time I thought it really seemed like he didn't want me to get healthy even though I had already been in hospital twice with pneumonia. It really compromised our friendship which ended a few months after that for other reasons but the fact that he really didn't want me to stop smoking had a huge impact on me. I am now in my 22 day of freedom from smoking and have much more of a chance of quiting for good as almost all my friends now have already given the smokes away and it's so much easier than last time. Encouragement from friends, fear of dying from a stroke or heart attach and your website keep me going, and I really am starting to see every day as a beautiful day. Thanks Kevin and keep up the good work. Kathy - Sydney, Australia I couldn't agree more. Last year when I had yet another attempt to quit my "best friend" who was a chain smoker did his utmost to make me take it up again - which I did with awful consequences. At the time I thought it really seemed like he didn't want me to get healthy even though I had already been in hospital twice with pneumonia. It really compromised our friendship which ended a few months after that for other reasons but the fact that he really didn't want me to stop smoking had a huge impact on me. I am now in my 22 day of freedom from smoking and have much more of a chance of quiting for good as almost all my friends now have already given the smokes away and it's so much easier than last time.

Encouragement from friends, fear of dying from a stroke or heart attach and your website keep me going, and I really am starting to see every day as a beautiful day. Thanks Kevin and keep up the good work.

Kathy - Sydney, Australia

]]> By: Anna http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality/comment-page-1#comment-136 Anna Sun, 21 Oct 2007 00:49:35 +0000 http://talesfromthequit.com/?p=110#comment-136 I feel lucky to say that upon quitting after 25 years, my sister, who is also my best friend, and her husband both quit a week later. Instead of not being supportive they jumped on the bandwagon, and making sure my sister and her husband, who have 2 great little kids, don't go back, helps keep me in check I feel lucky to say that upon quitting after 25 years, my sister, who is also my best friend, and her husband both quit a week later. Instead of not being supportive they jumped on the bandwagon, and making sure my sister and her husband, who have 2 great little kids, don't go back, helps keep me in check

]]> By: Mariko http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality/comment-page-1#comment-135 Mariko Fri, 12 Jan 2007 23:51:05 +0000 http://talesfromthequit.com/?p=110#comment-135 I absolutely love this post, its soo true. This sentence you wrote is soo great "i prefer the company of warriors.". It makes me feel stronger just reading it, thank you! I absolutely love this post, its soo true.

This sentence you wrote is soo great "i prefer the company of warriors.". It makes me feel stronger just reading it, thank you!

]]> By: Colleen http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality/comment-page-1#comment-134 Colleen Thu, 04 Jan 2007 07:30:40 +0000 http://talesfromthequit.com/?p=110#comment-134 Even though Ive left the herd. I still have some loved ones, friends and co-workers still grazing. I havent had much negative response. But at times I think its more that they dont want to make me feel uncomfortable. I hope they quit someday because i care about them. But right now its more me i think trying to stay away from the smoking. I dont want to separate from them all forever.I hope i can be comfortable again with out temptation. Does that make since? This is still a very new, scary, confussing place for me right now. But i know its the one most important thing ill ever do for myself. Im waiting and welcomming the day that i feel much stronger and confident. Even though Ive left the herd. I still have some loved ones, friends and co-workers still grazing. I havent had much negative response. But at times I think its more that they dont want to make me feel uncomfortable. I hope they quit someday because i care about them. But right now its more me i think trying to stay away from the smoking. I dont want to separate from them all forever.I hope i can be comfortable again with out temptation. Does that make since? This is still a very new, scary, confussing place for me right now. But i know its the one most important thing ill ever do for myself. Im waiting and welcomming the day that i feel much stronger and confident.

]]> By: Tony http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality/comment-page-1#comment-133 Tony Tue, 11 Apr 2006 12:36:41 +0000 http://talesfromthequit.com/?p=110#comment-133 That's a great article and so true, I wish I had found it earlier. I am now in my 4th month of not smoking and am starting to call myself a "non-smoker". Read about my journey towards a non-smoking lifestyle at <a href="http://help-me-quit-smoking.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">http://help-me-quit-smoking.blogspot.com</a> Good luck! T That's a great article and so true, I wish I had found it earlier.

I am now in my 4th month of not smoking and am starting to call myself a "non-smoker". Read about my journey towards a non-smoking lifestyle at http://help-me-quit-smoking.blogspot.com

Good luck!

T

]]> By: Raven http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality/comment-page-1#comment-132 Raven Fri, 29 Apr 2005 03:36:03 +0000 http://talesfromthequit.com/?p=110#comment-132 Very good read...very true! I was sent here by a fellow quit friend when i asked her opinion on my "still smoking" co-workers and what i felt to be coolness where friendship once was, while non smoking friends all rallied around me...now i think i understand. Thanks Very good read...very true! I was sent here by a fellow quit friend when i asked her opinion on my "still smoking" co-workers and what i felt to be coolness where friendship once was, while non smoking friends all rallied around me...now i think i understand.
Thanks

]]> By: a.b. http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality/comment-page-1#comment-131 a.b. Sun, 02 Jan 2005 13:30:29 +0000 http://talesfromthequit.com/?p=110#comment-131 I left the herd for the most part 3 years ago , but it is an ongoing effort to maintain my distance , for the herd is always trying to get us back . I left the herd for the most part 3
years ago , but it is an ongoing effort
to maintain my distance , for the herd
is always trying to get us back .

]]> By: fightn4life http://talesfromthequit.com/the-herd-mentality/comment-page-1#comment-130 fightn4life Mon, 20 Dec 2004 14:52:54 +0000 http://talesfromthequit.com/?p=110#comment-130 This struck a nerve, how right you are. Some days I feel so lonely for the friends I felt I once had as a smoker. A word, smile or glance is all I get at times. That is it. No conversation as before. I do not talk about quitting smoking, but it has drove a wedge in my personal life. I was thinking the other night at work all I wanted back was my friendship that some how got lost along with my quit. After reading this tale I understand this process is a lonely one at times. What I really want is to remain free from addiction. With or without all the friendships I thought I had at work. I have left the herd. If that makes some people nervous, so be it. Thank you Kevin, it helps so much to know we quitters are never really alone. You were once where I am today...I'll keep moving forward, it is the way I am going. I understand more every day why I have always started back...I never really understood the process. Sandyz Over 13 months breathing free This struck a nerve, how right you are.

Some days I feel so lonely for the friends I felt I once had as a smoker. A word, smile or glance is all I get at times. That is it. No conversation as before.

I do not talk about quitting smoking, but it has drove a wedge in my personal life. I was thinking the other night at work all I wanted back was my friendship that some how got lost along with my quit.

After reading this tale I understand this process is a lonely one at times. What I really want is to remain free from addiction. With or without all the friendships I thought I had at work. I have left the herd. If that makes some people nervous, so be it.

Thank you Kevin, it helps so much to know we quitters are never really alone. You were once where I am today...I'll keep moving forward, it is the way I am going.

I understand more every day why I have always started back...I never really understood the process.

Sandyz
Over 13 months breathing free

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